Author Archives: KJ

Conflict

Conflict has always been a constant in my life. Since I was little the people close to me have fought, yelled, screamed and thrown things. It all comes from something simple, miscommunication and feelings getting out of hand. It’s contagious and it trickles into me. I don’t even realise I’m yelling until the damage isContinue reading “Conflict”

Still here, just sleeping…

Hey so i know it’s been a while, I’ve been distracted, shocking i know. Life gets so busy making it hard to maintain anything. I have a tendency to get overwhelmed and as my life descends into chaos so does my mental state. There were a couple of weeks just past where i found itContinue reading “Still here, just sleeping…”

Connection

We have grown up in a society that harrows the idea of experiencing feelings and talking about the emotional experience. Because of this we developed negative or harmful mechanisms to deal with difficult shit on our own. Biologically, emotional connection drastically effects our brain chemistry and our outlook, feeling safe with someone where being vulnerableContinue reading “Connection”

Heal

There’s so much not taught to us growing up, only recently has the societal narrative pivoted to appreciate mental health and well being. Before it was all “suck it up” “get over it” “others are worse off” “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”. There’s nothing wrong with hurting, let’s stop damagingContinue reading “Heal”

Are you listening?

There is a lot more that we could be doing for our friends and family in regards to listening. I wasnt aware how terribly i was interacting with people until i was taught counselling microskills, which in my opinion should be taught in schools. There are so many aspects in communication that we arent taughtContinue reading “Are you listening?”

Inward

I always thought I was a fairly open and honest person. I suddenly became aware of how much I wasn’t sharing, in exchanges with my friends and family. See although I have always recounted things that have happened in my life I haven’t been sharing a crucial part that creates stronger bonds and relationships withContinue reading “Inward”

Resolutions

Personally I value growth, expanding my abilities and working toward better habits. As you’ve read in other posts I talk of having been a mess for most of my life, it took studying counselling to realise my habits were harmful to myself and the people around me. Growth isn’t easy, it’s taken a lot ofContinue reading “Resolutions”

Expectations

Ive almost been afraid of writing lately. Feeling myself and my good habits crumble I’m slipping out of being the person I was happy to be and with that I didn’t feel worthy of writing. Forgetting that’s the exact reason I started this blog in the first place, to work through my own shit inContinue reading “Expectations”

Identity

What does it mean to know yourself? Do we ever know ourselves the way we think we do? I suppose this is a bit of a rabbit hole of a topic, one that might send you mad if thought about too much. The very loss of identity becoming your identity. I feel like we createContinue reading “Identity”